Delayed Ejaculation - Tips on how to solve this "issue"

[J1066]

OP doesn’t say if he is circumcised or not.

circumcision can desensitise your ‘bell end’ and make finishing more difficult.

[Efksteve]

On 20/03/2021 at 08:25, effewe2 said:

Ok, not too long ago, I used to give my Babes 45 seconds of pure pleasure....that includes 30 seconds of foreplay...but lately...even before Covid, I am having a hard time finishing within a reasonable time.   I could go for 90 minutes of pounding in all the positions known to man, and maybe I will come.  The end result is I must go to the Five Fingers..to get the job done.

Are my years of masturbating catching up to me?

Any tips on solving this...meditation?  Herbs?  Stop watching porn during the shutdown.

On the positive side, when I say ST 3 hours, I used up all the time.

How you masterbate could effect this. I had this problem not long ago. There is a thing called death grip syndrome you can look up. If you squeeze to hard you can desensitize your unit. From my research and experience if you stop masturbating for a week or 2 it helps alot when trying to cum during sex. Using a pocket pussy instead of your hand when masturbating will prevent this. Also if you are "pounding" for a long time your unit will get desensitized. Thats why if you can get past the first few minutes you go into sport fucking mode. Try taking little 20 to 30 second breaks when you start to lose sensitivity to get the feeling back. You dont have to take it out just stop moving it. I normally suck on a titty or something so I'm not being weird just sitting there. Hope this helps.

[little_me]

I'm guess I'm finally beginning to "look" old enough that when I can't, the girls just brush it off as age and say it's OK.

Used to be a struggle when they'd look at it as something they were doing wrong, or ask what's wrong with me, and want to just keep trying... Especially when it was obvious they weren't really enjoying it, just some crazy misplaced sense or obligation it seemed.

A couple tips I found that help:

Make sure the condom fits. Should be sort of almost loose, you should slide inside the condom to create some friction. Otherwise, there is no sense of friction, and it doesn't work...

Pee first. If I am trying not to pee, I can't ejaculate. Particularly relevant to morning sex.

Drink lots of water. Everyone says this, and honestly, I kinda think it helps, maybe. But at least I'm not getting thirsty as I'm "chopping the wood"...

Alcohol and even red bull don't help. I've heard some studies that ibuprofen also dulls ALL sensations (in general, which I believe will add to the problem), not just pain.

[e11bkk]

1 hour ago, little_me said:

I'm guess I'm finally beginning to "look" old enough that when I can't, the girls just brush it off as age and say it's OK.

Used to be a struggle when they'd look at it as something they were doing wrong, or ask what's wrong with me, and want to just keep trying... Especially when it was obvious they weren't really enjoying it, just some crazy misplaced sense or obligation it seemed.

A couple tips I found that help:

Make sure the condom fits. Should be sort of almost loose, you should slide inside the condom to create some friction. Otherwise, there is no sense of friction, and it doesn't work...

Pee first. If I am trying not to pee, I can't ejaculate. Particularly relevant to morning sex.

Drink lots of water. Everyone says this, and honestly, I kinda think it helps, maybe. But at least I'm not getting thirsty as I'm "chopping the wood"...

Alcohol and even red bull don't help. I've heard some studies that ibuprofen also dulls ALL sensations (in general, which I believe will add to the problem), not just pain.

I agree with a lot of this besides trying to slide inside the condom than her. Finding good condoms is definitely critical, whether latex or not etc. 

There are so many variables I've found that has affected it.

Being sober for a few days in a row, quick session but easy to roll them back to back. Eventually ending up taking too long also.

Being extremely aroused leading to easy pops but being able to go again easily since the stimulus is so high. 

Hangovers, horny but hard to finish once but still horny after as well but too much work to go again sometimes.

Eat a big meal, no Desire to interact at all sometimes.

Just need to be aware of yourself and what's the situation to do it. I don't mind pumping easily but then again I rarely do ST.

[Thomaz73]

2 hours ago, J1066 said:

circumcision can desensitise your ‘bell end’

Indeed. At 12 years old ish, the doctor said something like "if you don't do this, you're never going to use that thing for anything other than taking a piss". Somehow that worked. But add a condom and too many beers, it can be quite difficult to cross the finish line. 

[Pabloypablo]

On 02/05/2022 at 10:53, Thomaz73 said:

I'm fucked!

I've read for the first time this entire thread.....

I'm 60 and I've gone from 15 seconds at the beginning of my career to almost never finishing without a lot of work and even then it's a 30% done and 70% tomorrow proposition.

For me, when I'm having difficulties, I do something that hasn't been really discussed as a possible solution yet in this thread.

I start talking dirty to my girls and then get them to join in with me.  

Asking her what she wants.

Telling her to ask me to finish with her.  (seems like thai speak for orgasm is "finis".

Telling her to describe what I am doing....  (Do you want slow?  Say it?  Do you want hard? say it!)

Getting my thai girl verbally involved, for me, helps a shit ton.

Quiet sex, is boring and unfinished sex.

I want hotel management to ring the room.  

I want the room next door to bang on the wall.

I'm too old to be embarrassed now.

Say my name baby.

Tell me to finis inside now, baby.

mmmm

 

[little_me]

14 minutes ago, Pabloypablo said:

Tell me to finis inside now, baby.

Hmm, I sometimes get this without any encouragement from me, but it just doesn't seem to help.

"you finis now. Time up, take too long, finis now inside!!!"

[Maxbest]

Great thread, about a little discussed, though more wide spread "problem" than is acknowledged...I experienced this on my recent trip to LOS, thinking like what the f@#k is wrong with me....here I am, amongst great looking gals, and I cant get my rocks off..or its getting hard to..For me, I think it could be condoms, and I am most certainly not going to have sex without them on, especially in an area like Pattaya.  Perhaps I need more of a connection than a Soi 6 gal or otherwise is able to give..ST and all.  Plus, I noticed on this trip, being a little more uptight about sex than normal...perhaps some form of performance anxiety?   And maybe related to this "problem".   Getting older now, so age could be playing a part, the penis is less sensitive than it used to be...Either way, its either psychological or physiological, or a combination of both?  Has any one seen a urologist to see whats going on downstairs re this condition, what sort of tests did they perform?  Thanks in advance...

[CamelToe]

When i was a teenager i would blow within 45 seconds,now at the age of 61 it's now 45 minutes plus

[ChikiBriki]

On 28/05/2023 at 13:06, CamelToe said:

When i was a teenager i would blow within 45 seconds,now at the age of 61 it's now 45 

Same for me, except I can blow in 45 seconds even at 34, but that's fine with prostitutes cause all I want is to cum and continue enjoying my cold beer and not work like I'm on a treadmill.

Gets a bit tricky when with regular woman...

[DevaDava]

On 24/02/2022 at 03:56, wolfgang68 said:

Try  Karsai  massage.

I had a lady do this for me in Chaing Mai Ive been trying to find one in pattaya but no one seems to know anout it

 

[wolfgang68]

7 hours ago, DevaDava said:

I had a lady do this for me in Chaing Mai Ive been trying to find one in pattaya but no one seems to know anout it

 

I do it at Thanya massage shop at the corner Thappraya-Thepprasit road. 1500b.

Very professional licensed therapist,  explanation on her homepage, just google Thanya Karsai.

Its not a sexual massage, its done with gloves, but the goal is to reach a inner and outside orgasm.

I do it every few months to unblock my blood vessels in the imitate areas.

Ask for the boss Thanya, but she also has other experienced ladies