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The following;

  • age
  • physical health
  • mental health
  • booze
  • ED meds
  • other meds?
  • shagging frequency
  • rest
  • diet

Control/improve those things above that you can and stop worrying about the ones you can not.

Every absurdity has a champion to defend it

Sex is a bit like oxygen, unimportant until you are not getting enough!

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Posted
17 hours ago, Syco said:

In a lot of cases the problem with a Pattaya girl is that because they are P4P , it can be rare to get an enthusiastic one.

It can definitely make it harder for you to cum , when your in the middle of performing your best sexual skills on her . You know that she's actually thinking what she's going to get from the food cart when she leaves your room. 

definitely. the ONLY times i struggle to finish is when the girl clearly isnt into it and is just starfishing.  Its made me become alot more selective, and I'll even choose to go home alone instead of bang a hot starfish. Also if i can i try and get a few drinks(only a few!) in the girl so she has a bit of a buzz going and that seems to help get into it a bit more.

 

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14 minutes ago, TripleIPA said:

definitely. the ONLY times i struggle to finish is when the girl clearly isnt into it and is just starfishing.  Its made me become alot more selective, and I'll even choose to go home alone instead of bang a hot starfish. Also if i can i try and get a few drinks(only a few!) in the girl so she has a bit of a buzz going and that seems to help get into it a bit more.

 

Yes, nothing will give you a soft on quicker than a girl that's interacting with you at the same level as a blow up doll.

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  • 2 weeks later...
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Go until you get bored then fake it.

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As we all know Viagra is a no no. Gives u the rock but hard to complete. That is if u do take them..And many girls have that huge gaping tunnel vagina that you can fit a tank. Hard to complete the mission and ultimately becomes a mission impossible....

Best bet is for u to find a great BJ artist who sucks like a vacume cleaner...you can find them here ...look up best BJ...

Happy mongering

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When I was much younger I would 'practice' on myself to delay the ending. It worked for me. 

Then much throughout the middle of my life my endings were what I expected and wanted. Not too long, not too quick.

As we age, the natural delay of the ending happens because we have trained ourselves to delay. For example, you may watch some porn, but maybe you don't want to finish until you get to a certain part of the video. In that way, you've trained yourself to delay the ending.

I know this delay pisses off many women for many different reasons. They may feel like they aren't enough for you. That you may be masturbating too much, which causes them grief because you are going for longer than they desire. that's only a few of possibly dozens of reasons women/men would have.

Now, you need to do the opposite you did when you trained yourself to delay the ending on purpose.

Make sure your fresh and not tired. Properly hydrated and in a good state of mind. Then make it about getting to the ending as fast as possible. That does not mean going into it at a 100 MPH/KPH and abusing yourself. It just means that your are paying attention to how it feels and letting it happen more quickly. Figure out a rhythm that works best for you and then try to improve on it next time. This is not a quick fix. There is no quick fix. You need to re-train yourself to let it go. It will take time and a concerted effort on your part. 

You might also try warming up your mind to the idea before you put your meat in motion. If your mind is ready, your meat will not likely be far behind.

 

Just my 0.02

 

  • 4 weeks later...
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I can actually makes some important comments about this because I also suffer from this problem. This isn't age related also.

OK. Probably the biggest culprit is if you were circumcised, That means you are one of those unlucky USA guys who had 70% of your most important pleasure nerves cut when you were a baby. The most stupidest thing to ever have done and it causes so many sexual problems. I know this because after I was not able to cum I did a lot of research into this.

I mean, who thinks its a good idea to cut off your foreskin that evolved for hundreds of thousands of years to make sex pleasurable so you can procreate. Its just not skin, there are so many parts of the foreskin that were cut that are very important for sex. 

When you cut the most important pleasure skin off, your body can not function how it evolved to function.

That being said, here is what I did to really help solve my issue. This was a dream after I found it and hopefully some of you with ejaculating issues can try it out and see if it works.

I had big issues with getting to ejaculation during regular sex, I can easily ejactulate with masturbation though.

One time I had sex in the morning on a full bladder, and the sex was much more pleasurable and I orgasmed so much easier. Normally I would always take a piss before sex, so I discovered this by accident one morning when the girl initiated sex before I took a piss. 

What a full bladder does is give you feeling when you thrust into the girl, the pressure on your bladder stimulates your prostate and you actually get feeling during sex. Something which you can't really get anymore because your parents thought cutting off 70% of your pleasure nerves in your foreskin was a good idea.

What I do is drink lots of water right before sex to fill my bladder up. Then when having sex on a full bladder the sex is so pleasurable and orgasm is fairly easy. This was a godsend I discovered this and it finally made sex much more enjoyable. You probably want to use the missionary style as that will have enough pressure on your stomach to stimulate you. I'm not really sure if other positions work as well but could.

That being said, I tell people who have issues to try this and nobody seems to want to try and and just ignores it. But give it a damn try. Fill your bladder up before sex and see if the extra stimulation on your stomach area helps push you to orgasm. It should really work.

Then be pissed at your parents for basically cutting your foreskin off and don't cut your kids foreskin off so they don't suffer from this same issue. 

If any of you with ejaculation issues try this, please let me know if it helped or did not help for you.

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  • 7 months later...
Posted

Lets see if I can shed any light on this...

I am 50 years old, in the gym regularly and a paramedic.

Here are some culprits:

ED drugs... they get you hard but can hamper your ability to ejaculate. I recommend Cialis but half of the big boy dose. 10mg instead of 20mg.

Too much alcohol... get drunk after your encounter, not before.

Fatigue, diet, proper hydration and smoking... Get plenty of rest, try to make fried fatty foods a once or twice a week treat instead of the norm. Drink plenty of water, dehydration will effect your erections and all of your body functions. If you are really wanting to enjoy your life figure out a way to quit smoking. It is bad for your arteries, circulation, heart and lungs. You need oxygenated blood to get pumped down there for things to work well.

Exercise not just walking or aerobic exercise, but swimming, resistance training, calisthenics and weight lifting. Not only will you look better your energy levels will increase and you will feel better about your body and like the compliments you get.

Lastly, and nobody wants to hear this.... Cut back on ST encounters.

The newness of sex with hot young strangers can wear off quick... Like a heroin junkie you aren't getting high anymore, you are just trying to prevent withdrawal...  Have a little restraint... when you wake up and you are hard enough to cut glass you will appreciate sex much more...

 

Also, try King Kong on Soi 6... no condom needed and great blowjobs... they have never failed me.

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I know this problem.  you have to find the position or positions which give you the most sensation and which excites you the most.  Here are mine: obviously fatigue, alcohol, the urge to urinate are aggravating factors ...

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Posted
1 hour ago, Tomv76 said:

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Yup, Number two has the best friction. plus even with girls that arent into anal you can imagine anal and it really seems to help. that is my go to finishing position.... You sir are wise beyond your years!

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3 hours ago, Tomv76 said:

 

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interestingly #3 has become my favorite position over the years.    if I'm not fucking a tight pussy I can struggle.    #3 allows me to find that friction I need.   

for sure needs to be a balance between Cumming to fast and having a hard time Cummings.    I get super frustrated when I can't cum.  I would rather be a one minute man.

Posted

Went with a bargirl, said she was 32 years old, had very slack pussy. Probably overuse: after all, this is Pattaya!

But she was a star turn blow job performer. I actually enjoyed that even more than poking her pussy.

So good, repeated several times.

Location, Naklua Road, the bar complex on the right about 400m north of the Dolphin roundabout. But I think she has now retired to her village near Udon Thani.

Posted
On 11/12/2021 at 17:56, Danbrooks2k said:

The newness of sex with hot young strangers can wear off quick... Like a heroin junkie you aren't getting high anymore, you are just trying to prevent withdrawal...  Have a little restraint..

I wholly agree with this and the rest of what you said too. The saying that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' can be changed to 'abstinence makes the orgasm......'    fill in the blank - I can't think of a word, but you know what I mean. Don't have sex, don't even masturbate for a while, a few days, a week, a few weeks - whatever it takes. Don't look at porn - have some time off. Your libido will be doing press-ups while you abstain.

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Posted (edited)

In Pattaya, it's not your job to make the girl cum, it's her job to make you come.

Don't worry about what the girl feels. She's getting paid for your shot so she'd probably rather get you off as fast as possible and leave. Let her know what feels good to you and she'll do her best.

If you want to go in her pussy, fine. Use a condom (it's Pattaya after all). If you can't cum with a condom no big deal, you can cum elsewhere. I almost always end up finishing bareback in a girl's mouth.

I suppose if you never do girls in the ass you could try it--the kinky factor might work for you. Someone above said he likes the girl to be a little drunk. Or maybe you want her to dress up like a schoolgirl, or wear high heels to bed, or thigh high boots, or pigtails, or big tits (you might get off on a titty fuck), or long hair, or tatoos, or whatever. Find a girl who has the appropriate outfit or if necessary, except for the boots, it should be easy for you to provide it. In short, if you don't get off on vanilla sex, try something different.

If you can cum with your hand, it's not a physical problem, it's mental.

There is a feedback loop along the nerve connection between your cock and your brain which passes your prostate and bladder. On one direction, you can see a hot girl and your brain sends a signal to your cock to get hard. Similar to using your imagination when you're jerking off. In the other direction, friction on your cock sends a signal to your brain to get ready to cum. Your prostate and bladder can effect the nerve and improve the signal in either or both directions.

Someone here mentioned doing it on a full bladder. See the preceding paragraph. One time at Devil's Den one of my girls stuck her vibrator up my ass while the other one was sucking my dick--I came really hard. See the preceding paragraph about the prostate. I'm guessing that's what helps get gay guys off when they do anal.

Also, as mentioned above, something like viagra gets your cock up but makes it harder to cum. Don't use it unless you really need it. And drinking will have bad side effects.

There are many options. Mix and match until you find what works for you.

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On 21/03/2021 at 05:14, Buddy Edgewood said:

If you're out of shape, drink a lot of alcohol…

That’s my kind of advice. Cheers! 🍻

Seriously, I watch some good hardcore porn before I go out, so it’s fresh in my mind when I’m banging and, if I’m having problems getting to the vinegar strokes, bringing the recently-viewed wicked-no-holds-barred filth to mind usually gets me across the line. 🥳🍑🍆💨👍🏽

(Obviously, for fuck’s sake DON’T have a wank while watching said wicked porn before going out mongering (easy mistake to make, like 😏), or you’ve worse than wasted your time and you’ll never net the leather later on! 😵💫🍆🙅🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🏴‍☠️)

Tom Tit

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Ron went home for a meal and a wash, but what he had seen over there did not let him rest.

Posted (edited)
16 minutes ago, philkrenshaw said:

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Also, as mentioned above, something like viagra gets your cock up but makes it harder to cum. Don't use it unless you really need it. And drinking will have bad side effects.

There are many options. Mix and match until you find what works for you.

It's true about viagra making it harder to cum, but this can be improved if you only take 50mg not the 100mg that's in a gel or tablet. And 50mg is all you need, that dose works just effectively as 100mg.

With a tablet it's easy, just cut it in half, with a Kamagra gel ,squeeze the contents of the gel into a small bottle of water, drink half the contents of the bottle. Put the remaining half bottle of water in the fridge to be used later, you also don't get a headache when taking 50mg.

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On 25/04/2021 at 08:21, Cheap Backpacker said:

who thinks its a good idea to cut off your foreskin that evolved for hundreds of thousands of years to make sex pleasurable

Well, in my case, the doctor told me something like "if you don't have this procedure, you'll never use that thing for anything else than taking a piss". Even as a lad that message came through loud and clear :)

 

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I notice I have to really stay extra hydrated in Thailand to not have this problem. Also might be a long shot but a prostate massage by an expert seems to be touted as a way to solve some of these kinds of issues. I had one recently and I've noticed some lingering positive effects even a week or more after. During it, it felt like I could actually physically feel the blockage that was stopping, delaying me and I felt the difference afterwards, like it had all been cleared out.

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I am doing weekly a karsai massage, the first 2 times i only did cum "inside", the last session i had the real very strong orgasm. Due to lot of girls (hookers around the world) and excessive porn watching, my level to get excited is already very high, which makes an orgasm quite difficult to reach.

Also the therapist confirmed a very delayed climax and hard to get.

I hope that the special massages are unglogging some viens and glands, which also might be one of the many causes.

In any case, i think its better too late than too early.

 

 

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6 hours ago, philkrenshaw said:

 

If you can cum with your hand, it's not a physical problem, it's mental.

 

Can be a bit of both though, because your hand provides different stimulation. 
So if sensitivity is reduced by age, alcohol, diabetes, condom use etc.  The exact stimulation you like or are used to with your hand, and a zero pressure unlimited fantasy/porn maybe enough, but sex may not, if that makes sense.

A lot of ED that was thought to be psychological is now thought of as at least partly physical, though it's not always an either or with these things. 


No easy answer to this in general, because we don't have good evidence and understanding on how it all works.
Alcohol generally causes these issues for me, no doubt. If I've not got laid for ages it can be tough to finish first few times with a stranger, then sorts itself out. 

Boost physical health obviously seems good advice.  Some people report problems from too specific wanking styles, which sex can't replicate. Makes sense that could make it more difficult.  HJs from massage girls or whatever don't work for me to finish, for example, I always have to do the last bit myself. 

If you've got an issue with condoms, trying wanking off using a condom maybe? could get you used to it. Not sure it'd work but worth a shot . 

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The use of condom kind of desentizes the feeling during vaginal sex, and makes it harder to cum!

Same with ED medication it will make me harder longer, but also make it more difficult for me to cum!

I don´t drink alcohol so that is not an issue for me personally, but I guess it might effect others ability to cum.

Biggest problem for me in the past was that I frequented beerbars, and most girls I barfined were "older" and average looking single  mothers!

When they finally were in my room and undressed, their stretchmaked bellies and saggy titties and sloppy pussies many times was a turnoff for me, and although they were fun to be with I often didn´t feel aroused enough to cum during sex! I did manage to barfine a few young ones now and then, but they were harder to find! 🙁

To overcum my problems I changed from Beerbars, to GoGo Bars,  with much more younger and fresher hotties! 😍

So, much easier to choose the kind of girl and bodytype I like, when I can see the girls dancing side by side

 often in bikinis or topless! 😉

A young and fit body mostly also means a tighter pussy, and hence more physical feeling/stimulation during sex,

as well as the visual stimulation of seeing a young and fresh hot body with firmer belly without stretchmarks and fuller perkier tits! 😜

A prolonged foreplay will also help me to build up the sexual tension before the real sex!

If I still can´t cum I take off the condom and start wanking over the girl until I feel I´m near the point of no return,

and then I let the girls take over to finish the job with their hands or mouth! 🤪

If I have ejaculated too frequently during a short time period it will also make it more difficult to cum,

so abstinens will certainly help as well to make me cum quicker.

At least 1 up to 2 weeks of celibacy between every barfine and sexsession gives me enough time to recharge!

This might not be an option if you have a short holiday, but works for me as I travel several months every trip!

 

Plahgat

 

 

 

 

 

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I have had this problem since mid 40 now I am 66 years young. I think it is a combination of our hormones and stimulation and the starfish factor weighs in.

Anyhow, I have had a curiosity with the LBs. Soooo, by accident I was getting a massage near Triangle bar in Pattaya when the girl jumped on top in the 69er and started a very good BJ.  After like 5 minutes she removed her clothing and her pecker came out to say hello. Well, well, well I took her cock in the 69 position and we both carried on.  :bj9:

Best dirty sex ever!!! Do not care if I get flamed.  :Pervert1:

Do not knock it until you give it a try. I only go with them now as I know that they will be horny as hell, very proactive and I will cum like in my 30's after a decent time of action of around 15 minutes.  

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I have the same problem. My counsellor and urologist say that is mainly a psycological factor. I am a bit anxious, I am sure it will get better. So far this is the best suggestion from Deano4598

"

  • age
  • physical health
  • mental health
  • booze
  • ED meds
  • other meds?
  • shagging frequency
  • rest
  • diet

Control/improve those things above that you can and stop worrying about the ones you can not"

Posted

Biggest problem I found with delayed ejaculation is that the wet patch is on your side of the bed.

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