Delayed Ejaculation - Tips on how to solve this "issue"

[effewe2]

Ok, not too long ago, I used to give my Babes 45 seconds of pure pleasure....that includes 30 seconds of foreplay...but lately...even before Covid, I am having a hard time finishing within a reasonable time.   I could go for 90 minutes of pounding in all the positions known to man, and maybe I will come.  The end result is I must go to the Five Fingers..to get the job done.

Are my years of masturbating catching up to me?

Any tips on solving this...meditation?  Herbs?  Stop watching porn during the shutdown.

On the positive side, when I say ST 3 hours, I used up all the time.

[RRosenberg]

Happened to me for the first time in my life two years ago in Pattaya.

Sounds great but as you probably know, it gets old VERY fast.

I remember one girl, the champion she was, I straight pounded her for 40 minutes before throwing in the towel. 

Basically I put it down to exhaustion, dehydration and overall too much boom boom.

Obviously I'm not a doctor, but I have remedied the situation with Zinc, Saw Palmetto, Magnesium, Selenium and Stinging Nettle.

Also, rest up and more importantly; drink enough water.

 

[messiah]

2 hours ago, effewe2 said:

Ok, not too long ago, I used to give my Babes 45 seconds of pure pleasure....that includes 30 seconds of foreplay...but lately...even before Covid, I am having a hard time finishing within a reasonable time.   I could go for 90 minutes of pounding in all the positions known to man, and maybe I will come.  The end result is I must go to the Five Fingers..to get the job done.

Are my years of masturbating catching up to me?

Any tips on solving this...meditation?  Herbs?  Stop watching porn during the shutdown.

On the positive side, when I say ST 3 hours, I used up all the time.

I pray all the experts on this forum would make extensive contributions to this thread.

Somehow there's very little documentation or help on this on the internet.
All that's on there is on Erectile dysfunction.

It's important to me, since I can't even remember the last time I have orgasmed without using all my mental powers to imagine I'm fucking someone I've never had before... and then when I do get that person, I have to imagine someone else to be able to get off.

With the proliferation of condom use now, it's all become absolutely impossible for a man to bust nuts.

The Desire is intact and I have no problem getting hard, but the struggles I have to go through to orgasm just defeats the purpose of all I try to achieve.

It's not mental in the sense that I'm nervous or anything... It just seems to take a lot for me to ejaculate.

The only exceptions are the few and far between instances that I run into a girl with whom I'm exceptionally sexually compatible with.
Goes without saying that it doesn't happen very often.

Help please! 

[Macawber]

22 minutes ago, messiah said:

I pray all the experts on this forum would make extensive contributions to this thread.

Somehow there's very little documentation or help on this on the internet.
All that's on there is on Erectile dysfunction.

It's important to me, since I can't even remember the last time I have orgasmed without using all my mental powers to imagine I'm fucking someone I've never had before... and then when I do get that person, I have to imagine someone else to be able to get off.

With the proliferation of condom use now, it's all become absolutely impossible for a man to bust nuts.

The Desire is intact and I have no problem getting hard, but the struggles I have to go through to orgasm just defeats the purpose of all I try to achieve.

It's not mental in the sense that I'm nervous or anything... It just seems to take a lot for me to ejaculate.

The only exceptions are the few and far between instances that I run into a girl with whom I'm exceptionally sexually compatible with.
Goes without saying that it doesn't happen very often.

Help please! 

I can't help you specifically other than to advise you to go back and read the second sentence of your post, particularly the last phrase. Oh, and despite what you might believe, if as you say, it ain't physical, then it's highly likely that there's something going on 'upstairs'.

Edited March 20, 2021 by Macawber

[keepitfun]

3 hours ago, RRosenberg said:

Stinging Nettle.

That’s a bridge too far.  Must fucking hurt!

[messiah]

18 minutes ago, Macawber said:

I can't help you specifically other than to advise you to go back and read the second sentence of your post, particularly the last phrase. Oh, and despite what you might believe, if as you say, it ain't physical, then it's highly likely that there's something going on 'upstairs'.

I appreciate your attempt to help.

I really do hear you... But what you're saying is that I should focus more on the women I'm with and find a way to get off with them in mind.

It's like telling someone "Walk on by the Pitbull... don't be scared"... Or "Just approach the girl confidently"...

If it was practical to just flip the switch and do those things, then life would sure be easy.

Are there any techniques to achieve these things... What techniques are required to be confident for example..

How do you mitigate the reality that once you get within a certain proximity of a girl... the unique sexiness that attracted you to her in the first place gets somewhat lost... She's no longer black, white, latina or asian...
She's simply a woman you're having sex with.

The reason I have to imagine other girls in the first place is that the real thing is like I said above, if not disappointing, is just plain ordinary.

Sorry if I'm babbling and taking this in a different direction..

 

[Buddy Edgewood]

Here are some tips...

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/how-to-cum-faster#overview

https://beducated.com/mag/tantric-ejaculation-control/

Edited March 20, 2021 by Buddy Edgewood

[SteveX08]

If all of the above fails, maybe try a LB?

[bobblobfish]

3 hours ago, messiah said:

I can't even remember the last time I have orgasmed without using all my mental powers to imagine I'm fucking someone I've never had before... and then when I do get that person, I have to imagine someone else to be able to get off.

Exact same thing with me, although it only happens with girls I repeated a few times (not many, more than 3 would do). Super inconvenient with a long term partner, I pop a Viagra and hope she gets off, whether I do is almost irrelevant. Even had to fake orgasms a few times.

With new girls, I can still focus on them and come that way. Maybe too quickly occasionally, though that's easy to fix, just fuck again in the same day.

Are you using ED drugs like Viagra? They help you get up even when you'd rather not, but sometimes it's really hard to finish.

Not sure what a fix for this is, if one exists.

Edited March 20, 2021 by bobblobfish

[Farangkie]

Iv'e got the same problem , the only cure is no condom , and an enthusiastic girl that want's your cock inside her as much as a cocaine addict needs their next fix.

[ShortTime]

I used to have the same problem until I starting using the back door!

[Micky2]

If I make the effort to hold off, and go on for too long, hoping to give a partner the pleasure she deserves, I come to the point that I know I am not going to get mine. Best to take a break, then after bit of rest and recovery, go for a selfish quickie, and cum when ready, without trying to hold off.  

[LovinBgood]

1 hour ago, Syco said:

Iv'e got the same problem , the only cure is no condom , and an enthusiastic girl that want's your cock inside her as much as a cocaine addict needs their next fix.

I find this to be true with me also.  After being with many ladies here it takes an enthusiastic one to get me off.  

If you get her off and still can't cum from intercourse, get her to give more BJ or some hand work, or a finger up the bum during a BJ, etc... Prone bone for ladies with big pussies can work, other positions could work. Finding what works is part of the fun unless the lady wants to leave too quickly, that can happen with ST or even a LT  

It's all good man.  Physical intimacy and touching with a naked lady is satisfying in its own way for me  

Edited March 20, 2021 by Lovinladiesisagoodthing

[Farangkie]

2 minutes ago, Lovinladiesisagoodthing said:

I find this to be true with me also.  After being with many ladies here it takes an enthusiastic one to get me off.  

If you get her off and still can't cum from intercourse, get her to give more BJ or some hand work, or a finger up the bum during a BJ, etc... Expericment!

It's all good man.  Physical intimacy and touching with a naked lady is satisfying in its own way for me  

In a lot of cases the problem with a Pattaya girl is that because they are P4P , it can be rare to get an enthusiastic one.

It can definitely make it harder for you to cum , when your in the middle of performing your best sexual skills on her . You know that she's actually thinking what she's going to get from the food cart when she leaves your room. 

[effewe2]

Update - I use Viagra and Sialis...and do come, but it is 10%...usually with a new Birdie...

I have no mental issues other than pissing my money away to a hot Asian babe with skinny waste and big boobs....and a nice smile...

[ShaneFalco]

4 hours ago, ShortTime said:

I used to have the same problem until I starting using the back door!

Did it hurt the first time ?

[ShaneFalco]

Op, can't help you i'm afraid.

It has always been like that for me, exept for when i am in a serious relationship. Even the very first time i had sex, i lasted a good 30 minutes.

Sometimes it is great lasting for a long time, as you get to have a great cardio workout 

Sometimes it is fucking frustrating.

[SteveX08]

5 hours ago, ShortTime said:

I used to have the same problem until I starting using the back door!

Same as a ladyboy.  But with a ladyboy you can grab  two different things with your hands while the main man busts down that door...

Edited March 20, 2021 by SteveX08

[Roadglide]

Missionary but have her pull her legs together and you place your legs outside of hers.  You can get a longer thrust and if she squeezes her thighs together it will be like a tighter pussy.

[BuakhaoBarry]

Try slipping a finger up your ass

Edited March 20, 2021 by BuakhaoBarry

[Pinoydave]

Try changing the brand and type of condom....... I find it impossible with the really thin Japanese ones, but Durex featherlight I come more often.

also I find I need to eat meat, not the tint Thai portions, a proper western style rack of ribs or steak

[Buddy Edgewood]

If you're out of shape, drink a lot of alcohol, smoke, not getting quality sleep, eating a crappy diet - All these will negatively impact your sexual heath.

Take a break from the booze, go for a brisk walk or run daily, get some good sleep (7-9 hours), get outside and soak up the sun a little bit, stay away from fast food.  Within a week or two, you should see some improvement.

Quality sleep is tremendously important for men's sexual heath.

[Mort19910]

Keep working that Wood bro! Wax on wax off 

[w1lly]

17 hours ago, keepitfun said:

That’s a bridge too far.  Must fucking hurt!

I don’t think you’re supposed to put it under the foreskin, maybe you’re doing it wrong ? 

[Macawber]

19 hours ago, messiah said:

I appreciate your attempt to help.

I really do hear you... But what you're saying is that I should focus more on the women I'm with and find a way to get off with them in mind.

Actually,  that's similar to what I was trying to convey. To put it another way, I was suggesting that maybe your issue is related to your thinking, your attitude ..how you perceive the sexual act. You seem to be looking at it solely from your point of view, concentrating on the end result(achieving your orgasm) without considering the 'how', as in what happens before and during the race to the finish line. Have you considered that the act of having sex is at a minimum shared between 2 people, not just you alone? Have you considered maybe taking into account what the other person might be feeling? In general, women like to experience foreplay ( but not all women and not al BG).Are you doing the things that make them respond in a physical way which in turn gives you the physical signals and peace of mind that allows you to relax and enjoy the experience rather than closing your eyes and your mind, shutting their wants and needs out and being focused solely on yourself? Sometimes you can have a sexual encounter and walk away feeling satisfied despite not achieving an orgasm because you know that the other person has had an orgasm because of what you've given them.

Now look who's rambling on ...