Anyone getting very little out of sex

[tobeornottobe]

To be more specific . Is anyone finding it very hard to cum . I barfined this absolute smoking hot 22 year old last night and I just couldn't cum inside her . The reality is my problem should be not being able to last long enough with a girl this hot . I have a fair idea what's causing it and it's a combination of things 

 

1. I'm very overweight at 21 stone 

2. Because I'm overweight I take cialis 

3. I watch porn and masterbate much too often causing death grip 

 

The not being able to cum inside the girls has made me feel meh about pattaya in general . I'm. Just wondering if I lost the weight stopped watching porn mastebating and stopped the ed pills would my experience with a hot thai girl bouncing on my knob be a whole lot better 

[Nando9999]

Nope, I can still cum at will.

Perhaps ladies arent your thing any more, try a LB out and report back

[Hjernestimulanz]

after you had sex with them, you can instruct them how to jerk you off. if that will do anything for you

[Richie]

I think your diagnosis is spot on - except you need to also get fitter.

1) Lose weight (no easy thing I know but a little at a time makes a big difference - start by cutting out sugar or pizzas and burgers etc, do not go extreme)

2) Cold turkey porn and self-gratification, ok you'll get blue balls for a while

3) Get more active - use your porn time to go down the gym and pick up weights whilst also doing light cardio work

4) Once lighter stop taking the pills

Good luck and look forward to your report in 6 months.

[Diggsy]

Since you masturbate a lot then you don't have an issue with cumming in general.

Many men have what's called "cumming posture", it varies from one to another according to personal psychological and physical attributes, but postures where you control the pace are recommended (missionary, doggy, spoon,...), you know what makes you excited better than anyone else.

If you frequently fall out of breath in the middle of the action; then losing weight, working out and refraining from masturbtion for a while would definitely help.

[Old Scratch]

Had your testosterone checked? (serious question, not a jab)

Overweight -> lower testosterone -> less motivation to both lose weight and boom2 -> feeling meh

[dontpanic]

Try having sex sober, after a lot of beers with the heat and general tiredness sh1t happens. Try a soapy or a gentlemens club or something like Dream Teen massage which is also open during the day, they will chuck wow you off if you prefer.

[william77]

Try fucking a Thai porn star with silicone tits. I bet you come pretty fast. Personally I need silicone to get off or else I end up just jerking off on her face. 

[vimto66]

53 minutes ago, tinkytaylor said:

 

2) Cold turkey porn and self-gratification, ok you'll get blue balls for a while

You know when people say `dont make plans when coming to pattaya`.....well you often switch on your pc to look at something totally unrelated,but cant resist a little look and....................

[Shaggydog67]

48 minutes ago, Old Scratch said:

Had your testosterone checked? (serious question, not a jab)

Overweight -> lower testosterone -> less motivation to both lose weight and boom2 -> feeling meh

I think Old Scratch has hit it on the head - low T can be part of a hormone cascade that predisposes you to deposit fat & have a bunch of health issues.

If u have already had kids & no plans for more you might want to consider getting a testosterone prescription.

I got quite a high dose with an aromatase inhibitor over a year ago & haven't looked back - feeling 20 years younger & way more active.

[helman2000]

Too much porn can condition you to only cumming to porn. So you cant finish with a girl but can finish yourself off afterwards (tragic on a 2 week holiday, ive been there). You have to wean yourself off the porn a couple of months before your trip and instead use your imagination thinking about the TG's your going to pick up.

[tobeornottobe]

I'm 38 so I think I'll try loosing the weight before going on testosterone just yet 

[Bonkabit]

11 hours ago, tobeornottobe said:

1. I'm very overweight at 21 stone 

Body Mass Index is a good first measure of a healthy weight.

21 stone = (21 stone x 14lbs)/2.2 = 134 kg.

Divide this figure by your height in metres, squared: e.g. if your height is 182 cm: 134/(1.82 x 1.82) = BMI 40.

The normal healthy range is BMI of 20-25 - BMI 40 is very high - so you would be wise to consider professional advice and supervision for a weight loss and fitness program.

It will take time but will be worthwhile. The sooner you can start, the sooner you will begin to get a result.

Personal note: I am six foot tall (182 cm) and weigh myself on the same scales each Monday: target is not more than 75kg. This gives a BMI of 22.6. If my weight increases then I cut back a bit on food intake e.g. one slice of toast, not two, at breakfast; smaller serve of food at dinner etc. Works for me. 

Good luck.

[kakebur]

My problem is condoms. I can pound away for hours but i hardly cum.

sometimes i have to wank myself off in the girls mouth which isnt bad at all.

[fishy62]

I've been having testrovin shots for the last 6 months every 3 weeks.. I service the missus every few days and if I'm playing up in the big smoke I can get 4 hop on's a  night with the fresh meat. Can only keep it up 4 2 days or so then need a break for a couple of days to get me best mate back on track and interested again. Its a shit growin old...55..!

[revoluti]

Fleshlight or similar instead of your hand should sort out death grip, read up on that

BMI isnt everything but a good guide for the average framed guy.

[alphageek]

Visceral fat is a major inhibitor of testosterone. Once you lose bit of weight around your gut, you will find everything sort of bounces back. Easier said than done, but good things take effort. 

[Greenbottle5]

I think the OP's biggest issue is psychology. You mentioned being fat twice, as his first bullet points. You should lose the weight and you will feel better about yourself and that boost to your ego/overall well being will help you.

[Guest]

Turn on some porn and fuck her at the same time, and maybe eat a Big Mac while doing this, oh , and don't drip any special sauce on her!

[latestarter]

On 3/31/2017 at 4:37 AM, dontpanic said:

Try having sex sober, after a lot of beers with the heat and general tiredness sh1t happens. Try a soapy or a gentlemens club or something like Dream Teen massage which is also open during the day, they will chuck wow you off if you prefer.

Thanks for the tip about Dream Teen. Checked out their website. Looks very nice. Added it to my list for next trip. Only "gentlemens club" I have been to is Kinnaree.Can you recommend any other similar establishments?
 

[Crash6969]

Turn on some porn and fuck her at the same time, and maybe eat a Big Mac while doing this, oh , and don't drip any special sauce on her!

Yep, watching porn might interest the girl as well.

I find the dirty talk a turn on as well, but I haven't found the courage to ask the girls to do this for me.


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[taylor1975]

Deathgrip? ....sounds like a darth vader attack

Ed pills at 38. That would be all the motivation i needed for a change of lifestyle.

[Ohyesuare]

For me, doesn't matter how hot they are, if there's no connection there or they seem not into it then I get no enjoyment or feeling out of trying to have sex. That's why I never understand how someone could rape a girl or have sex with a drunk or semi-unconscious one but I guess everyone is different. 

[JAI DEE MAK]

On 4/27/2017 at 10:13 PM, Ohyesuare said:

For me, doesn't matter how hot they are, if there's no connection there or they seem not into it then I get no enjoyment or feeling out of trying to have sex. That's why I never understand how someone could rape a girl or have sex with a drunk or semi-unconscious one but I guess everyone is different. 

Many are different I am not endorsing the rape or other "fantasies" but its what it is a finger up the bum is also a good come trigger but not for all Ha Ha.

Just relax and enjoy if its agreed between two consenting adults it ok by me.

 

JDM

[Soda11111]

i never thought of trying the finger up the bum thing.  Do you mean put the finger up my bum or her bum?