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Plantbasedkacj

There are some things I do love about England, the food, cleaner fresh air, quiet roads, Good health care service I guess, better quality physical therapists, osteopaths etc if needed. The Thailand/Pattaya blues have decreased slightly for now, I am into my work routine, I am enjoying my plant based diet here, I’m dealing with the lack of sex by jerking off to porn, not even on tinder anymore, I’m not even bothering trying to get western women, Netflix and YouTube helps me get through the days when I’m not working. Almost December, was thinking of heading to Amsterdam in the Christmas holidays for a few days to fuck European hookers but I might not bother and just save my money for Thailand next year. 


 

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BigLicks

How do I cope???

 

Chuck wow when I get Pattaya blues   :GrinNod1:

 

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Laowai Gao

The first time back home in 2009 was bloody horrible. I was finishing up a 3 month solo odyssey of HK, China, VN, Cambodia and Thailand on the back of my redundancy payout. I went back to a job wasteland in the UK...never recovered my previous salary or position.
So after sticking it for a year or so...I fucked it all off and went to China. (Salaries are better there than TL).
Had a bump after two years...due to a bad relationship. Returned to the UK, nothing much had changed...packed up and returned to China.
Its such a big place that you can have a radically different experience in a different region.
Happy in my east coast city for 5 years now.
Leaving Pattaya this time, was sad as I had a favourite there...but I knew that I wasn't returning back to the grim UK again.
I was back to more pale asian girls with no tits and ass, but very good legs. This cheered me up no end.....dunno how i could ever go back now.
Pretty sure I will die in a paddy field somewhere....and I am perfectly ok with that.

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Jxt1774

I feel this post and granted I'm just back from my first trip and probably still riding a wave of excitement but sort of went the entire other way on this. Likely due to circumstances before I left but anyway here goes.

Pattaya, while fully aware it's not "real", woke me up and really motivated me rather than gave me the blues. Here in the upper midwest of the US, it's cold, dreary, and miserable. And I live here all year round. Never married, no kids, mid 30's. All of my peers are married, kids, etc. and the life just simply never truly appealed to me.

Before I left I admittedly was likely pretty depressed. I was becoming lazier and lazier at work, drinking too much just pretty much out of boredom and going "really what am I doing here."

While couching this that "living for Pattaya" is a dangerous, dangerous thing to do let me maybe put a positive spin on it. Going to Pattaya made me so GRATEFUL that I am in my mid 30's, with no kids, not married, and lucky enough to have the freedom to venture over there. I don't love my job, who does. I feel like I'm in an industry I'm better than, etc. 

But I hit the ground back in the States as motivated as I have ever been to work all I can, not care one bit about social standing or social comparison here, and achieve as much as possible so that I CAN have the opportunity to enjoy return trips to Pattaya. Here I was in my mid 30's going "So I'm going to do what? Work for 30 more years just so I can maybe retire to Florida an old man to live out my days? Sounds terrible."

Now there's a fire lit. Immediately upon my return I took calls from prospective new employers and aside from more money (555) at the top of my list is 2-3 weeks additional vacation time and the understanding that my phone is off. 

As I stated it's likely from the mental position I was coming from at home before I left but my trip was life changing. Being over there where no one cares how I make my money, or what my social status in the US is, was refreshing and quite frankly seeing the level of poverty made me extremely grateful for my cold and dreary climate here because while it may not be a tropical paradise it affords me a lifestyle that by western standards is very middle class but by SE Asia standards is extremely affluent.

As I'm sure many, many fellow BMs have toyed with all of a sudden I'm thinking "How much do I need to save to retire comfortable there?"

In the short time I've been back I feel like my time basically made a new man of me. 

The summary with how I plan on dealing with the inevitable Pattaya blues is to sum up what another BM said which was "make money in the west, spend it in the east". While every bit of me wishes I was still there it's unrealistic at this point to think of going there full time. But what is realistic is the fire it's lit under me to say "But working hard and spending 2-3 weeks a year instead of a week is realistic", as is capitalizing on financial opportunity and trying to up my bar each year so I can spend a little more time there and a little less time here.

As a newbie who was just there for one time it sure seems a bit rose-colored glasses I'm sure, but personally for me the experience itself showed me that there was much more to this world than the seemingly mundane existence in the northern States. 

Going out on a limb here, Pattaya made me a better person 555 :):EvilLaugh1:

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shagtownboi69

Pattaya blues is similar to a drug withdrawal and we are all addicts chasing that high. That release of serotonin when your surrounded by hot 18 year old girls who's ready to ride your brains out will definitely be followed by a period of calm down.

It usually subsides once you get into your routine. I definately feel a sense of melancholy but gone after about 2-3 weeks.

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Barhop

Have mentioned previously of my local Thai masseuse who comes around weekly and also pleasingly tomorrow :wink:  But to get slightly :Offtopic2: I'll mention something that she told me years ago.  Well I have brewed my own beer for decades and she mentioned that her father also used make his own drink also.  On asking what he used to brew, she told me "Rye Whiskey".  Until very recently I thought he must have been super keen to distill rye whiskey in Thailand.  Always wondered where he sourced his rye.  Bugger me, the penny finally dropped and I realized that he almost certainly used RICE and not RYE :Booboo:  Of course everyone knows TGs pronounce rice as rye.  Guess he made something similar to SAKI, but :Question:

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Plantbasedkacj

Does anyone else cook a delicious Thai curry or some Thai meal at home and when you taste it and smell it you get a flood of memories of Thailand. Might make a green curry today

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sparkqq

I have been struggling with the so called Pattaya Blue since I finished my one-week trip to Pattaya two months ago. Everything in Pattaya seems to be wonderful, nothing like the tedious life back home. To relieve emotions, sometimes I send message to my regular girls, read other people's trip report, reply threads on this board. I had sex with some girls recently. However the experience was not satisfied. The local hookers were quite different from thai gilrls. Thai girls are usually pure and farm fresh. Perhaps because I have been to Pattaya for many times, my taste for girls is changing. I am picky about the connection with the girls I fuck. Actions matter more. I am planning another trip to Pattaya. Only Pattaya can resolve the Pattaya-sick.

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Barhop
On 23/11/2019 at 16:29, Barhop said:

Have mentioned previously of my local Thai masseuse who comes around weekly and also pleasingly tomorrow :wink:

Well, local Adelaide TG rang the doorbell on Sunday, as per usual.  She had an extra bag in her hand, which is normal.  Often, she will bring around a few small meals she has cooked up, yum...  Other times, it may be something she has picked up in Costco that she thinks I may like to try, nice...  But TG's like presents, giving and receiving, which is a nice facet of their makeup IMO.

But on Sunday, I was completely surprised!!!  There were two live blue swimmer crabs in the bag...  Sista (who I know well) had been out crabbing earlier and thought I may like a few.  Wish all shocks turned out like this...

Anyway, that evening, enjoyed crab in a noodle package, after nibbling on a few morsels (of course)...

Gotta love TG's!!!

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felix the cat

As a few BM's have already stated....you've gotta keep busy. Never let Thailand dictate your life, which i can see reading your post that this has already taken a strong hold on you. 

You need to get on with your Western lifestyle & not think about LOS...i know this is difficult for you to understand this right now, but the more trips you take, the more you'll understand. 

Stay off social media for a while that's related to Thailand....again ''yes'' it's difficult i know, but sometime down the track you'll see that it's all about balance. The more time you don't think about LOS, the faster the time goes between trips. :)

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Rob8489
You might want to look at breaking that 6 week trip into 3x2 weeks just so you can space the trips out and have something to look forward to.


This is the best advice hands down. You’ll get the biggest (qualitative) ROI from this.



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Hin

I am certain I would struggle back in the west.

I routinely look at Thai women and 99% of the time I get a smile back from them. The few times I have been back and looked at attractive ladies in the West I received a scowl and a "what are you looking at response."

Thai women look like they are 20 or less well into their 30's. If I looked at younger women in the West I am certain I would end up being asked why and maybe worse.

I am a handsome man here and there are go-go bars, blow job bars, soapy massages and oily massages here.

My English has deteriorated to the point where pidgin English is normal fro me when listening and or speaking to Thais.

I am no longer surprised by almost any relationship issues.

I am no longer surprised by any driving issues.

There is more, but I realize that even if I complain, I do not want to leave here.

 

 

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Biennial
3 minutes ago, Hin said:

My English has deteriorated to the point where pidgin English is normal fro me when listening and or speaking to Thais.

I took my son to Thailand for a week. Pretty soon he was talking to me in pidgin English!! 

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Rob8489
Why don't you start with the fat ones. Even only going for a few dates might be helpful. It doesn't need to be serious.



I can really relate to the OP.

Whilst Machinations’ advice is well intended, I wouldn’t waste your time with the fat ones.

Your confidence / mood will dip even more, especially if you feel these fatties are below your “pay grade”. Better to try and learn to enjoy your own company, be with your dog, or mates, read a good book rather than be up to your nuts in guts, IMO.

Of course, this all hinges on the assumption that the OP doesn’t like these western fatties that give him attention on tinder.




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JerryBenStiller

I just keep busy. So busy making money that I have no time to think or worry about the trip. Before long the holidays come around and I am back on the plane . 

Other than that, coming onto this site and writing things out makes things better. But reading doesn't work as much, it's better to just keep writing and to keep the memories alive. 

That is partly why guys write trip reports. It makes things better 

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JerryBenStiller
5 hours ago, felix the cat said:

As a few BM's have already stated....you've gotta keep busy. Never let Thailand dictate your life, which i can see reading your post that this has already taken a strong hold on you. 

You need to get on with your Western lifestyle & not think about LOS...i know this is difficult for you to understand this right now, but the more trips you take, the more you'll understand. 

Stay off social media for a while that's related to Thailand....again ''yes'' it's difficult i know, but sometime down the track you'll see that it's all about balance. The more time you don't think about LOS, the faster the time goes between trips. :)

This is perfect. You have said what I wasn't able to articulate very well. 

After a trip, it is better to write a trip report and file it and then leave it. Get on with life. 

Making money, living life. 

Soon enough Pattaya comes around again, and on the plane there the excitement builds 

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On 29/10/2019 at 07:06, Plantbasedkacj said:

I returned from my latest trip from Thailand In the end of August, I was there for almost 6 weeks, spent a week in Loas too. It was my 8th trip to Thailand.  I’m 28, in the UK, I’m feeling kinda lonely and stuff, not depressed but just feeling low. I don’t get any sex or female attention, if I do use tinder her, only the fat unattractive girls might message me but I’m not interested. I feel I can’t connect with people here, I feel out of place. I have a hatred towards western women because they’ve rejected me for years. Sometimes I play the Bangkok airport sounds on YouTube just it’s a memory of my trips, sometimes I join Thai Friendly even though I’m not In Thailand, just waiting for July next year when I can go back, it’s quite a long wait. Anyway, just wondering if any of you guys can relate, and how do you cope when your back home in your country?

Cheap Ryanair flight to Germany and spend an afternoon to late evening ioe even early morning in an FKK club, fuck a few whores and fly back... It will cost you around £200 all in, but you get free food in the FKK and at this time of the year you can save on heating whilst you are away from home too.... its what I do to break the time between trips to my main monger stations.

 

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Plantbasedkacj
11 minutes ago, dingbat22 said:

Cheap Ryanair flight to Germany and spend an afternoon to late evening ioe even early morning in an FKK club, fuck a few whores and fly back... It will cost you around £200 all in, but you get free food in the FKK and at this time of the year you can save on heating whilst you are away from home too.... its what I do to break the time between trips to my main monger stations.

 

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Been to one before, it’s ok but feels so fake, when your not fucking a whore your just alone, in Thailand you get more of a girlfriend experience, the Thai girls have a better connection with you, it feels better. But yeah I was considering going to Prague or somewhere close with whores during Xmas but I don’t know, it’s cold and maybe rain, not sure if FKKs are open on Christmas Day ? Maybe not worth the hassle and money, maybe just stay home and eat lots of junk food and chill. Can always get a whore in the UK of course. 

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sulu
On 18/11/2019 at 13:19, Jxt1774 said:

I feel this post and granted I'm just back from my first trip and probably still riding a wave of excitement but sort of went the entire other way on this. Likely due to circumstances before I left but anyway here goes.

Pattaya, while fully aware it's not "real", woke me up and really motivated me rather than gave me the blues. Here in the upper midwest of the US, it's cold, dreary, and miserable. And I live here all year round. Never married, no kids, mid 30's. All of my peers are married, kids, etc. and the life just simply never truly appealed to me.

Before I left I admittedly was likely pretty depressed. I was becoming lazier and lazier at work, drinking too much just pretty much out of boredom and going "really what am I doing here."

While couching this that "living for Pattaya" is a dangerous, dangerous thing to do let me maybe put a positive spin on it. Going to Pattaya made me so GRATEFUL that I am in my mid 30's, with no kids, not married, and lucky enough to have the freedom to venture over there. I don't love my job, who does. I feel like I'm in an industry I'm better than, etc. 

But I hit the ground back in the States as motivated as I have ever been to work all I can, not care one bit about social standing or social comparison here, and achieve as much as possible so that I CAN have the opportunity to enjoy return trips to Pattaya. Here I was in my mid 30's going "So I'm going to do what? Work for 30 more years just so I can maybe retire to Florida an old man to live out my days? Sounds terrible."

Now there's a fire lit. Immediately upon my return I took calls from prospective new employers and aside from more money (555) at the top of my list is 2-3 weeks additional vacation time and the understanding that my phone is off. 

As I stated it's likely from the mental position I was coming from at home before I left but my trip was life changing. Being over there where no one cares how I make my money, or what my social status in the US is, was refreshing and quite frankly seeing the level of poverty made me extremely grateful for my cold and dreary climate here because while it may not be a tropical paradise it affords me a lifestyle that by western standards is very middle class but by SE Asia standards is extremely affluent.

As I'm sure many, many fellow BMs have toyed with all of a sudden I'm thinking "How much do I need to save to retire comfortable there?"

In the short time I've been back I feel like my time basically made a new man of me. 

The summary with how I plan on dealing with the inevitable Pattaya blues is to sum up what another BM said which was "make money in the west, spend it in the east". While every bit of me wishes I was still there it's unrealistic at this point to think of going there full time. But what is realistic is the fire it's lit under me to say "But working hard and spending 2-3 weeks a year instead of a week is realistic", as is capitalizing on financial opportunity and trying to up my bar each year so I can spend a little more time there and a little less time here.

As a newbie who was just there for one time it sure seems a bit rose-colored glasses I'm sure, but personally for me the experience itself showed me that there was much more to this world than the seemingly mundane existence in the northern States. 

Going out on a limb here, Pattaya made me a better person 555 :):EvilLaugh1:

Mid 30s. Sounds like you were in Patts for a week. May I ask you a few questions ?

How long were you in Patts ?

As opposed to home, where you're working most of the time you're not sleeping, while here in Patts you are free 24/7 - what did you do with your time in Patts ?

And especially when you weren't "partying" ?

In ~30 years when you can retire to Patts, do you think you'd do the same thing(s) you did during your stay all the time ?

If not, how do you see your life in retirement in Pattaya ?

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simon6666

How do I cope back home? I don't.

Back home is life. Pattaya's a fun game I play sometimes.

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mr joshua

Problems arise when ur fed up of thailand and still tired of the uk. how do u fill that void. im 26 and saved 3k a month all year this year and got fed up in the sewer after just 7 days. am flying home now. cant even be arsed to go philippines.

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Wiley Coyote

I get Pattaya Bluewithin 48hours of return to UK

I start planning next date of departure within 72 hours

And usually book flights within 7-10 days of return 

It does not get better as you get older.....it is an addiction 

 

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RWallace
On 29/10/2019 at 09:13, QuotaMan said:

Best advice for the Pattaya blues is to have a healthy outlook on life in general, and especially a meaningful existence in your home country.

Good advice for nearly everything, if you ask me.

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Plantbasedkacj
39 minutes ago, mr joshua said:

Problems arise when ur fed up of thailand and still tired of the uk. how do u fill that void. im 26 and saved 3k a month all year this year and got fed up in the sewer after just 7 days. am flying home now. cant even be arsed to go philippines.

7 days in Pattaya and you got so fed up your flying home ? What happened to you over there ? What are you fed up by 

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mr joshua
8 hours ago, Plantbasedkacj said:

7 days in Pattaya and you got so fed up your flying home ? What happened to you over there ? What are you fed up by 

Drinking and whoring i guess, place makes you jaded after a while. spent one wholw day in the hotel until about ten pm. no motivation to do anything else

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