Rehab for TGF

[Rambo69]

I just found out my TGF is on drugs. We've had a very troublesome relationship for 4 years. I stayed with her for our 3 year old son. At first I thought she had alcohol problems which I tried to talk to her about, which just sends her in to a a rage. Today she attacked me with a knife at her mothers house. As I left her brother in-law came after me and struck up a conversation with me. He told me she's on the yaba tablets and they've been having a lot of problems with her lately. He told me to take our boy away from her. 

I'm in a very difficult situation now and I'm looking at my options. I'm looking for rehabs online but Google only returns these luxury rehabs for falang which looks like scams to me.

Does anyone know of any government rehab programs in Thailand? Any information would by greatly appreciated

[kansuwan]

http://www.comparethairehabs.com/what-you-need-to-know-about-thanyarak-hospitals-thai-rehabs/

[Kandinski]

I have close to non experience with rehab but believe the chance of success is the individual  go to rehab voluntarily and by own will.
Have no idea how to deal with addicts in Thaland but saw a TV documentary once about what's known as the world toughste rehab program. From the documentary I got the understanding  succes rate  was very good; otherwise unfortunately not able to help. Good luck mate and hope all the best.
https://wat-thamkrabok.org/rehabilitation/

 

[Rambo69]

Thanks guys. Thanyarak Hospital looks like the best option. I will call them tomorrow. I really don't want to take the boy away from his mother so I hope this works out

[rhodie]

Good luck mate. Tough love. Hope it works.

[likeaking]

I have some work related experience with rehab and she will have to want to go to voluntarily to rehab for it to work. Sorry to say, mate, but you and your son probably have a long, lousy road ahead of you. Take the kid or let his relatives do so until things get better with her. 

[Bigdaddyo61]

I’m speaking from personal experience.  I’m assuming that she is not a causal user, but is in full blown addiction.  I could write a book on how difficult and painful this is going to be, however I’m not going to waste any time and effort, because her brother gave you the best advice.  

 

Not only did did her brother give me that advise, her sister, her mother, and her father did also.  Take your kid out of that environment and you walk away.  No amount of love, money, effort, crying, yelling, rehab is going to cure her of that addiction.  She has to want to stop.  

Take your kid and walk away.

[Rambo69]

Despite her addiction she has been taking good care of he kid. i will be extremely traumatic for him if I take him away from his mother. I have information that if I get the authorities involved her treatment does not have t be voluntarily, they will pick her up at her home and she wont be able to leave the hospital

Also it will help me to get  custody rights over the child in  case she really wont cooperate

Stuck between a rock and a hard place

[likeaking]

Bigdaddyo61 laid it out without a lot of talk. Involuntary treatment will get her through withdrawal, we're talking addiction, not just a user. But unless she wants to quit, it likely won't work for long. She has to be self motivated to quit, usually it's when they hit rock bottom. Work together with the family, maybe they will take the boy for awhile. Children are more resilient than adults give them credit for.

If she's taking good care of the child it doesn't sound like you have a lot of cause, legally, to take custody of him. How does her drug use affect the child?

[jocky king]

On 02/02/2019 at 20:38, likeaking said:

I have some work related experience with rehab and she will have to want to go to voluntarily to rehab for it to work. Sorry to say, mate, but you and your son probably have a long, lousy road ahead of you. Take the kid or let his relatives do so until things get better with her. 

Absolutely spot on .... I have seen and tried to help my friends to overcome their drinking/drugs/gambling addiction but no chance . Only themselves not anybody seek help voluntary. My ex wife had an addiction, I was given full care of my three daughters by Court for years , she had overcome her addiction and got her relationship to our daughters back .  To OP , I really hope that she will find herself strength to overcome her addiction by seeking help . Your brother in law is definitely right to ask you to take your son , maybe it will awaken her and seek help if it does happen . It is better to be cruel than to be merciful to cure her .  Best of luck to you , the mother and your son . 

[Punter]

Think about the kid first and make contingency plans if Rehab doesn't work out. Good luck.

[simplex]

Also what about the illegality of taking drugs? Are you sure they are not just gonna put her in jail instead of rehab?


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[thisisdre]

All jokes aside, I do really wish you all the best in this sticky situation